Hi ellewyn, welcome to the site. My advice is to jump into chat and get to know people. Most people are friendly and they will be happy to talk you through the different toys and experiences they have had.

If your still worried about talking there is this help page for new people with loads of tips and tricks

https://lovenselife.com/article/1596254025953

I’m assuming we just put what we’re looking for and hope there’s a decent person out there to match with