For guys fed up with ghosting, the reality is there are far more guys than girls. Lots of guys (not all, obvz) ask for female control. Lots of guys (not all) want to control girls. To "snipe" a female link you have a millisecond before you get beaten. In this fiercely competitive space, male links will get hit, often by males that prefer not to control males and often links of males that prefer not to be controlled by other males. But fear not, there is an answer.......Put your link at the top of your post, then a blank line or two. Then a request for what you prefer, then a couple of blank lines. This will get your link out of the target zone for snipers. But....... You may then have a long wait for your ideal controller.

Or, you could accept its a virtual glory hole, enjoy the thrill but accept your in a seller's market and try not to moan and spoil the fun for the dozens of others know the rules of the game but enjoy themselves anyway, understanding what a treat it is to have somebody that wants to play with your bits.

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Alien with 9 tentacles preferred

Pretty please