You can create a link for your toy in the app under the discover tab. Make the link length 3-5 minutes and then you can paste your link into the control room. You may do this anonymously and just thank your controller or you can ask for a wave if you want them to reveal themselves. 

Just chat is done in the general chat and the kinky chat is for naughty gifs and conversation. You can lock your DMs if you prefer to have a more quiet experience here.