Which do you prefer? There are pros and cons for both. 

For the shy, anxious or uncertain, I would suggest dipping your toe into the calm pool of patterns. 

You can experience the fun of live control, on your terms, to find out what you enjoy.  Pause,stop, rewind etc without having to explain yourself.  Then, wade out deeper into the lovense kinkdom and try live controls. 

I have found, it helped me to work out what I like.  This in turn will help your controller, to give you a better experience.  

DM me for my lovense ID to search for the paterns I have made. You don't have to tell me your ID to download the patterns. 

Explore, have fun and enjoy yourself.