I think live control is better, you get a certain amount of intimacy knowing that someone has your own pleasure at their fingertips. That said knowing someone catered a pattern for you is also something special so it comes down to personal preference.

I make patterns and I do live controls, and my friends like both.

It's a mood thing.

Sometimes they like the interaction of a live control, sometimes they just want to lay back and relax with a pattern.

I have made some patterns for public, however if I'm controlling someone I like to know exactly how they enjoy being buzzed, and change depending on her mood.. Far more intimate.. 😉😏