This is a follow-on post from a challenge I am doing for the months of September and October. You can find the original start to this thread here https://lovenselife.com/article/1694452347500

Just a little note to the moderators so they don’t remove this post, I will be detailing some other Apps in this post that are used for virtual Keyholding and for playmates in Dom / Sub relationships. I have no affiliation with these applications and am just a user sharing my experiences. I am receiving no payment for anything which looks like advertisement here. Always best to keep the Mods happy 😉

Since I started these posts, I have had a few people come to me and ask about chastity, some about cages and others about keyholding so I thought I would cover some of tools and apps that are out there to manage dynamics long distance, because now days there is always an APP for that.

Chaster – Not really an APP but a browser run system

If you search for a chastity App on google, Chaster will be the best result. I was actually made aware of this app by one of my playmates in a D&S group on the lovense App, during my trials just before the start of my experiment. He regularly posted a link to his Chaster lock to allow people to add or remove time, so I chatted to him about it and when I met my keyholder we tried it out. But WAIT don’t scroll down to the next APP yet if you're not into Chasitity, because I also found out that the app is great for short term locks if you're into bondage. 😊 So all you budding Doms and Subs read on, and you might find something useful to you.

How the locking works – Each cage or belt normally has two keys. It is recommended that one is kept as an emergency key which is available should you be away from your lock box or if your keyholder is in another time zone. My emergency key is encased in a block of clear silicone along with a note saying when it was encased and who I am locked for. I did this so that I could always carry the key with me, the silicone keeps it from getting damaged, but makes it hard to redo if I have to use it, so I know to only use it for emergencies. My Goddess is also glad that I have a means of escape if she is asleep or working should I get into difficulty.

The other main usable key is kept in a key box fixed to my wardrobe with a combination code on it. I spin the code without looking and then via the app take a photo of the code and upload it. The photo isn't stored on the phone or locally only on the app so I can't cheat and look back through my photos. Once I close the box with my key inside and spin the combination the only way I can be released is via the app, emergency key or if my keyholder tells me the code as they can see the combination photo at any time. The other option the system has is for generating a code to put into a digital safe and they will shortly be adding support for those who use chastity unique single use plastic locks.

Verification Photos – Now the system above isn't infallible and can be easily cheated, so they have created a two-step verification system so to speak. At regular intervals, I am required to upload a photo of myself in my cage, with my intact emergency key and a piece of paper with a unique 6-digit code generated for each photo. That last part stops you cheating and using the same photo over and over again. You can setup your lock to request 1 or several of these photos to be taken per day and penalise the wearer if they don’t meet the quota, additionally the keyholder can request verification at any time and punish you if you are not quick enough, meaning it would be difficult to remain uncaged without getting caught. It's also a way for her to play with me, requesting verification photos whilst I'm out or at work making for some awkward in cubical photo shoots of my caged clitty. Me and my Goddess also use the system to record tasks that I complete so that she can see I'm doing them properly. All the photos are stored in the App and you can look back at each submission, you can set the privacy to just you and the Keyholder or if your into humiliation you can set it to ‘visible to everyone’, allowing anyone to look at your last photo when they look at your profile and current lock. If your keyholder is too busy to keep on checking your photos, then they can activate verification allowing the community to vote on your photo to check you are still caged. If enough people reject your photo, if you did it incorrectly or wrote down the number wrong then you can set the system to automatically punish the wearer for a failed verification. As a member of the community, I can verify others photos and during my time on chaster have seen many different types of cages and belts.

Extensions – These add features and customisability to your lock allowing you to increase or decrease the difficulty. For example, you may make your wearer roll a virtual dice against a bot every few hours, if you win time is removed if you lose time, is added to your lock, you can then configure how many times the wearer has to spin the wheel and how much time is added or removed. The other extension which is used a lot is ‘the wheel of fortune’ where you can customise each slice of the wheel to do something different like add or remove time, pillory you or freeze your lock, meaning your timer won't count down until the lock is unfrozen again. They are basically fun little games to make the wearer play to keep them interactive with the lock and give them the chance to remove time, but more likely add it.

Tasks – technically an extension like above but is worth a section on its own. You can create a list of 10 tasks for your wearer to carry out whilst they are locked up. Luckily for longer locks there is the option to edit this list so that you can keep the list fresh with new ideas. I have to complete a minimum 5 tasks a day otherwise I am penalised. My tasks have been designed to train me orally and anally and add to my feminisation. But there are also a few in there specifically designed to please my Goddess, who can assign any task she wishes from the list and is more than happy to press the button to give her a big O. 😊 for me each task has a points value assigned to it and I have a points goal to be achieved before I can be released from my lock regardless of whether my timer has ran out or not.

Penalties – Each extension and activity can have a penalty assigned to it should you not complete it in time or not do enough of them before your time runs out. The penalties can be anything from adding time to your lock, which is fully customisable from minutes to days, so make sure to keep your keyholder happy. The penalty can also freeze your lock making it so your timer doesn’t count down until your lock is unfrozen again. This can be quiet worrying as you never know how much time is going to be added to your lock and I have had it where it once added 6 hours before it was unfrozen. The system can also be designed to pillory you, whereby you are advertised in a public space in the app and shamed for your naughtiness, other users can then vote on your shame adding time to your lock. This can be a very disheartening experience and I have had days added to my lock just by one pillory, so it is a very effective deterrent to make sure I get all my daily tasks done.

Messaging – In app you can communicate with other users and your keyholder using a messaging system. It’s a nice addition and allows you to share ideas and tasks with others as well as chatting about your lock experiences. The App can be linked to your discord account allowing push notifications to be sent through when you get a new message, or when your lock is affected by an event.

The community – There is a great community in Chaster, they have their own discord where they help each other and share ideas on basically how to fuck each other over. 😊 With your accounts linked you can see who a premium member is and what their status is ie wearer, keyholder which are nice little additions. The in-App community is also good, with the ability to create a profile with a few basic details and a search to allow you to find keyholders and wearers in your area and message them in a basic chat feature which has some safety and privacy settings. There is also an activity area where users are displayed if they have been punished / pilloried where you can vote on their locks and add to their punishment and where wearers post their task lists so the community can vote as to what task you carry out next. There is also an explore section where some keyholders create locks that others might enjoy and invite them to join, acting as keyholders for groups of subs. I have met a few interesting people and have had a good time there.

Premium – So with every App there is of course a paid for option, with a basic account you can only have one lock at a time and are restricted to 3 extensions per lock. This can be quite restrictive so I went for premium for the duration of this lock so I could unlock it all. It has been quite helpful being able to setup a second lock as it allows my goddess to control some bondage games we play and how long I am locked in my maid's outfit. Is it worth the money though? Maybe if long term chastity is your thing, but if you’re just dabbling it’s the cost of a Netflix subscription a month which can be costly. But it goes to helping some startup developers and allows them to provide more content, so I don’t particularly mind. The additional benefit here is that only one person in the dynamic need to have premium so that you can both enjoy the benefits in the app.

If paying money is your thing though there is the option of ‘Findom’ locks where you pay the keyholder to join the locks and in order to complete certain tasks

Chaster and long distance bondage - Ok so I said you can use this for bondage and you can all you need is a set of combination padlocks similar to what you may put on a suitcase. Take your combination locks and set a random combination without looking at them. Using the App take a picture of the locks and then apply them and spin the combination. You can then keep the lock to yourself and perform whatever tasks you set yourself before you are released or offer the lock to your partner so that they can determine when they will release you.

Overall Chaster is a great app for chastity, with a large supporting community and some good features and controls for the keyholder and wearer dynamic but is flexible enough to be used for bondage where no Chasity in the dynamic exists.

Obedience –App store android

Obedience is a habit tracker app with a Dom / sub vibe. It’s designed to allow the submissive to work towards rewards and goals by completing daily weekly or monthly tasks for points whilst trying to avoid being punished for not completing tasks.

Where this app excels is in the planning stage of the dynamic, allowing to detail and record the subs, limits, Rules for the dynamic, ideas to be shared and an area for notes. This is incredibly useful for allowing you to keep track of your submissives development and add extra variance to regular tasks for instance using the note area to add specifics for that week’s tasks.

The app is split up into rewards, punishments, tasks and notes allowing you to semi-organise.

Punishments – the simplest part of the app is punishments, where you basically put a title and description of what the punishment is. Once you have listed the punishments you can link them to the tasks / habits so that if it is not completed when required a punishment or two will automatically be assigned.

Habits / tasks – These are quite customisable, where you start with a title and description but then you can select how often the habit needs to be completed including selecting certain days of the week and how many times per day. With this flexibility you can make hourly, daily and weekly habits for your submissive to complete. You can then decide how many reward points they get for completing the habit and separately how many points are removed if they fail to complete the task in time as well as assigning a specific punishments. The other good thing about this app is that you can set custom reward messages and graphics when your sub completes the task, which is great for positive reinforcement of their progress. You can also set it, so the Dom gets a message notification each time their sub completes a task allowing the Dom to keep track on their subs progress closely.

Rewards – The app is very much a carrot and stick mechanism and not just all stick like chaster. Obedience allows you to set various rewards which the submissive can trade in for points, allowing them to go for easy rewards or save up for a bigger one depending on how you configure your rewards. The submissive gains points by completing habits and the Dom hasthe option to adjust the points total at random depending on their will.

Additional features – one of the good features is that you can pause habits if your sub becomes unwell or other life events occur which a pause can be agreed upon with their dom. The can also be used with multiple submissives at the same time

Premium – As with chaster there is a premium option which give you more features but namely most customisability. A standard user is limited to creating only 7 habits, but premium unlocks this to unlimited. Unlike chaster though both the sub and dom require premium for all the features to be unlocked and in reality, 7 habits are enough but if you want a more discrete app then it might be worth the investment.

If you are long distance or living together then the Obedience app can add a little something extra to the dynamic if your submissive needs training or is working towards a development goal, it becomes a useful tool for tracking that progress. I do feel it is missing a few things though and I hope they continue to develop it.

Other Apps

There is also a couple more apps you can use is a dynamic that have been suggested to me. A big shout out to Bimbobambijess for suggesting the embrace App. ( https://theembraceapp.com ) I haven’t had a chance to try it myself yet, but its basically a journaling app which allows couples in a dynamic to share their fantasies and innermost thoughts whilst being prompted by the app, helping couples to discover more about each other.

The other app in early Alpha testing is Domarachy ( https://domarachy.com ) This app is very similar to chaster with some of the benefits and features of Obedience. They are developing and adding new features weekly so it will be interesting to see where it goes.

But now for this week’s fun

I mentioned this in a previous weeks post about using a face fucking dildo on the max to control a Nora or mission on the other end. Well, the task popped up and Goddess was in the mood to help out. so, I got myself prepared, sliding the internal dildo of the gag into my mouth, before buckling it in place leaving me with a 6” cock protruding from my mouth. I laid a pillow on the bed and laid max on top to get the height right and then knelt at the side of the bed waiting for my Goddess to activate the control. I lubed up the dildo and the phone pinged as the control started, I leaned forward and slid the dildo into the max, causing a small blip on the control bar and an “oooo” from my Goddess over the phone. I started a nice steady rhythm but noticed the bars on the device didn’t reflect my movements and I was only getting the occasional moan from Goddess, so I adjusted the position of the Max and got a bit of a better response. After 5 minutes though even, my goddess commented so I stopped and unbuckled the gag and offered to switch to the Calor.

A massive change in control as soon as I switched and certainly some better noises from my goddess as I thrusted back and forwards with my head fucking the Calor. My Goddess moaning over the phone and saying words of encouragement as she demands me to fuck her harder. My mouth getting fucked by the dildo inside it, as I push hard against the Calor, giving out a muffled moan that my Goddess giggles at. It had been a solid 20 minutes of me kneeling by the side of the bed bouncing back and forth as I face fucked the Calor, spurred on by Goddesses moans. She then told me she was going to ride my face so told me to get on my back, so I got up on the bed, the dildo gag pointing straight up in the air as I slid the Calor up and down it. She rode my face describing how she was holding my hair and her juices flowing down the dildo and over my face. After a few minutes she said she needed to cum, I muffled through the gag “do you want me to finish you” she replied no and stopped the control telling me to go get Rec to finish her.

It was the first time we had really played with our switch dynamic like this and right in that moment when she said “no” I felt very much the submissive, very much my princess side, which is what I had been for the last 30 minutes as she rode my face. Rec was the term we used for my Dom side, and I understand it, she wanted to be made to cum by the dominant me whilst she could be submissive. I took off the gag and switched off the calor switching to manual control of her lush to push her hard and let her go over the edge, as I talked and described what I was doing to her as Rec took charge and pushed her to satisfaction.

Briefly afterwards we discussed the control of both the toys with the dildo gag and both decided the max was just awful even with me manipulating the toy to try and get the best effect across the sensors. Goddess said the Calor was much better and more responsive but still preferred it when it was my cock our control pushing her buttons so to speak but she did enjoy the experience.

One of the task this week was to purchase a sex toy, in the end I purchased two, the new lovense ridge which I will cover next week. The other item I purchased was a collar, now I understand the importance and significance of a collar and have even described them and talked about them with my goddess. So the intention was not for me to be collared by her, I mean she already owns my cock and cums so I think that enough for now. I already have some play collars, such as posture and locking so I just wanted another one but for it to be specific to my sissy sub side. In the end I ended up with a cute pink lockable collar with a leash, perfect for the remaining time in chastity and other times in the future. Goddess commanded that it be worn whenever I was dressed as a maid and whenever I edged or carried out certain tasks. It certainly made things more interesting and exciting, and I did smile when I saw myself wearing it in the mirror. I used it when carrying out the cock sucking tasks, wrapping the leash around the post so I couldn’t pull fully off and doing the same when licking pussy making it that my face was constantly buried in the pussy for the full 30 minutes of the task. It has certainly made me feel more submissive than I was expecting.

If you are unsure of the significancy of collaring in a dom / sub dynamic then please read around the subject or talk with a good Dominant who will explain it. Some good starting reading can be found here https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/what-it-means-to-be-collared

This week was very informative and hopefully some of the items mentioned here will help in your own dynamics and relationships. As always if you have any questions or tasks for me that you want us to consider then please leave a comment below or DM me. Mine are always open.

Stay kinky people.

Rectitude